Many people don’t think of divorces as happy, which is why the story from today’s guests is an important one!

When Nikki DeBartolo and Benjamin Heldond got divorced, they devised a strategy to put their son’s needs first.

Together, they helped each other heal and build a new, blended, family.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • How Nikki and Ben came to be “Our Happy Divorce”
  • The markers/moments that they knew it was time to divorce
  • When you’re trying to find the “right” way through separation
  • Nikki’s and Ben’s response to someone who says “I have to stay for the kids”
  • Their individual pain points in their divorce
  • Their prioritization of their son
  • The key piece of respect and mutuality

For more from Our Happy Divorce:

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I'm Not Your Shrink is a podcast aimed at helping you feel connected to yourself, to others, and to live a life aligned with what matters most to you. I bring you clinical knowledge and evidence based research, along with experiences of sitting in the therapist chair along with being a wife and mother. I'm joined by subject matter experts to talk about everyday issues we all face to change the dialogue in your life.