The 30 Days to Us, from the More Than Roommates series, is a simple, expert-guided way to bring back connection, intimacy, and joy—without long therapy sessions or overwhelming tasks. Designed by Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, this challenge gives you quick, daily shifts that make a big impact.
You love your partner, but lately, it feels like you’re just co-existing, more like roommates than a couple. The spark is fading, conversations are mostly about logistics, and intimacy feels like a thing of the past. Maybe you’re carrying the mental load alone, feeling unheard, or struggling to get your partner to engage.
You’ve tried talking, maybe even nagging, but nothing seems to change. And the hardest part? You don’t want to feel this way. You just want to feel connected again, without having to beg for it.
You miss the days when being together felt easy, when you laughed more, touched more, and actually looked forward to spending time together. You don’t want to give up. You just need a way to shift things without adding more stress to your already full plate.
You don’t have to figure this out alone. I’ve helped thousands of couples break free from this cycle, and I’m here to help you, too. The 30 Days to Us Challenge is different because it’s simple, effective, and designed for real life. No overwhelming tasks, just small, expert-backed shifts that create real change.
I've taken the work from couples just like you and created my THREE PILLAR approach so you can make lasting change.
Safety & Security
At the core of every strong relationship is a sense of emotional safety—the deep knowing that you can show up as your full self and still be loved. This pillar focuses on building trust, creating space for vulnerability, and offering reassurance during hard moments. When you and your partner feel safe together, you’re more likely to turn toward each other instead of away, especially when things get tough.
Communication
How we speak and how we listen can either build a bridge or a wall. This pillar teaches you how to shift your communication patterns—so instead of falling into blame, shutdowns, or misunderstandings, you learn how to express yourself clearly, validate your partner’s experience, and repair after conflict. With the right tools and a new mindset, you’ll start to feel heard—and hear your partner more deeply too.
Connection
Connection is what keeps love alive. This pillar brings focus back to the small, daily moments of emotional and physical closeness that often get lost in the busyness of life. From playful rituals to intimate conversations and intentional touch, you’ll rediscover what it feels like to enjoy each other again—not just as co-parents or roommates, but as partners who laugh, dream, and desire together.
The 30 Days to Us Challenge is delivered straight to your inbox, one day at a time, making it easy to fit into your already full life. Each email takes just a few minutes to read and includes one small, focused step—either a mindset shift to reframe how you see your relationship, a communication script to help you talk about the hard stuff with more ease, or a take-action prompt to create connection in real life. There’s no pressure to do it perfectly or at the same time every day—this challenge meets you where you are and helps you build lasting change through small, consistent moments of intention.
Here's What You Need to Know
✅ Delivered By Email – each day with a simple, meaningful prompt to help you reconnect emotionally, physically, and mentally with your partner.
✅ Designed for Busy Lives – Whether you’re juggling work, kids, or just feeling overwhelmed, this challenge fits into your day in just a few minutes.
✅ No Partner Required – While this challenge is designed for couples, you can start making shifts on your own—even if your partner isn’t actively participating.
✅ Backed by a Relationship Expert – Led by Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, this challenge is based on proven strategies that work.
✅ Immediate Impact – Small, intentional changes add up quickly. You’ll start noticing shifts in how you communicate, connect, and experience your relationship—without forcing anything.
✅ A Clear Path Forward – By the end of this challenge you’ll have new tools, insights, and a fresh perspective on how to keep strengthening your relationship.
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Your Questions Answered
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What if my partner isn’t interested in doing this with me?
You don’t need your partner to be on board to start making changes. Many people go through this challenge on their own and still see a shift in their relationship. The small mindset shifts, communication tools, and actions you take can create a ripple effect that invites your partner to respond differently—without forcing them to participate. -
I’m already overwhelmed—how much time will this take?
I get it—life is busy, and the last thing you need is another big commitment. That’s why this challenge is designed to fit into real life. Each daily email takes just a few minutes to read, and the simple actions can be done in the flow of your day. No long lessons, no added stress—just small, meaningful shifts that make a real impact. -
What if we’ve already tried to fix things and nothing has worked?
If you’ve been stuck in the same patterns, it makes sense to feel skeptical. But this challenge isn’t about doing more or having another big, exhausting conversation—it’s about approaching your relationship in a new way, with expert-backed strategies that actually work. You’ll learn small but powerful shifts that can help you reconnect and see real change, even if nothing else has worked before.
